I was due to speak at a little chapel last Sunday, but in the end everyone decided to join the Remembrance Service at the parish church instead, which I think was the right thing to do. I had chosen not to preach on the Remembrance theme, as it happens, but on the set readings for the day (the parable of the wise and foolish virgins), as given below :-
Weddings
in first century Palestine were rather different from weddings today. So far as
we can tell, the marriage ceremony followed a lengthy betrothal or engagement
period which was itself a contractual arrangement that could be ended only by a
formal divorce. On the marriage day itself, the bridegroom would come to
collect his bride and they would make their way in procession to the place
where the marriage was to be celebrated. In the story Jesus told, perhaps it
was a procession of this sort for which the ten bridesmaids were waiting, with
their oil lamps. And the bridegroom, as
we heard, was late.
I thought
it was brides who were supposed to be late. My daughter got married two months
ago, and she was 25 minutes late. That actually counted as a minor success; the
photographer had told us she’d be an hour late. Her new hairdo fell out and
they had to start again, apparently. On the day, all sorts of people could have
been late in fact: my brother Colin was travelling from Llandudno, I’d a nephew
coming from Anglesey; my sister was coming across from Oakham in Rutland and picking
up her daughter in Stratford-on-Avon on the way. My son was coming from London,
as were many of the groom’s friends, and another brother, Terry, was coming
down from Blackpool. And since my son-in-law is Polish, all his family had
flown in from Krakow. In fact everyone apart from the bride arrived on-time,
though my brother and sister-in-law from Llandudno did run things a bit tight.
But the tension!
Had we done everything, prepared everything, paid for everything? For weeks, my
daughter’d been sending us planning rotas, showing what we should all be doing,
and the date we should have done it by. Mostly, we ignored them, and it didn’t
matter. It all went really well, and everyone had a good day, especially the
bride and groom.
We forgot a
few things, and we didn’t quite get round to doing a few things. None of them
mattered too much as it happens, but with so much to coordinate, we could
easily have missed something important. And then it would have mattered a lot.
Weddings today are very different from weddings in first century Palestine, but
they’re just as important, that’s for sure.
Whatever
you’re planning, it’s important to have a plan B. Not everything will go
exactly as predicted in plan A, so you need to make sure you can still keep all
the wheels on the road, even so. Keep
things slick, and no-one else will notice, that’s the theory. It’s wise to make
sure you have oil in your lamp.
Well, this
is a parable about judgement, of course. Jesus had a lot to say about
judgement, of course. He didn’t only talk about finding lost sheep and binding
up wounds; there’s also a hard edge to his teaching. His people will have to
answer for their action and for their inaction.
It’s good
that this is a parable about inaction. When we use the word ‘sin’, we’re mostly
thinking in term of sins, plural, in other words of the bad things we might do,
or maybe see other people doing. Mostly we ourselves are nice and good, and
don’t do much that’s wrong. But sin mostly isn’t sins at all. Sin is less about
what we do, more about what we don’t do. When we don’t get round to things, when
we can’t be bothered. Too much of the time, that’s me. I’m dreadful at not getting
round to things. A procrastinator, a last-minute man, that’s me. To be honest,
we’re a family of them; that’s why my daughter kept making out her rotas and
lists, and that’s also why we mostly ignored them. Which group of bridesmaids
would I have been in? I think I know.
More than
once, I’ve been saved by the fact that Tesco’s open 24 hours. Well, there were
no 24 hour superstores back in those days, to sell foolish young ladies oil for
their lamps. I can imagine them hammering on the dealer’s door to wake him up.
It must have taken them ages; and when they got back, they were too late.
So let’s
think about what the message might be of this story for the people who first
heard it, and for us today. We all know the song, “Give me oil in my lamp, keep
me burning.” This is a story about how we make ourselves ready for the Lord.
Maybe those who first heard Jesus were thinking mostly about being prepared and
ready for the second coming, the Lord coming in judgement and fire, the end of
all things, the moment of reckoning. Will he find us ready and prepared, or
will he find us wanting? It has that meaning for us as well, but I think we
must also read it as referring to the ways in which we prepare ourselves for
service in the world today. These are not alternative readings, and mutually
exclusive; as we wait for our Lord, our waiting needs to be active and
purposeful. We should be waiting as witnesses and as those who have a story to
share.
We wait as
members of a servant Church, dedicating its energies and skills into making the
world around us here as heavenly a place as it can be. We proclaim the kingdom
to come by building kingdom values of love and peace and compassion and service
here where we are – loving our neighbours as ourselves. Our beginning point in being sorted out and
ready and prepared as Christians is constancy in prayer and in our reading of
God’s word. If we don’t pray regularly and we don’t read regularly that’s like
having the lamp but no oil to put in it. Lamps without oil go out; so does
faith without prayer.
So, next
question: what do I mean by prayer, and how do we go about reading God’s word?
It isn’t just that we do it,
it’s how we do it. Let’s
think about prayer. Prayer isn’t really about reciting things, even something
as holy and relevant and beautiful as the Lord’s Prayer. Of course reciting
prayers can and should be part of our prayer life, but it shouldn’t be all we
do. We don’t necessarily have to kneel to pray, nor even to speak. One
definition of prayer speaks of “the practice of the presence of God”.
I love the
story of the old men who used to wander into church every lunchtime and sit
there for a half hour or so. One day the minister stopped him as he was leaving
and said, “I love the way you come here every day to talk to God.” “Oh, I don’t
talk to God,” said the old man, “leastways, I do sometimes, when I’ve got
something to say, and sometimes I reckon he talks to me. But most of the time
we just sits here together in peace.” Now that’s praying: choosing, in our busy
lives, to make some space to sit a while with God. Words are optional, so is
sitting, some to that. We may be busy, but we can never be too busy to pray. So
I know one person who prays as she washes up after breakfast, another who prays
as she drives to work each day (in case you’re worrying, she doesn’t close her
eyes to do it).
How we do our
reading is also important. There’s no prize for being able to devour bigger
chunks of scripture than the next person. Often, small is beautiful in our
scripture reading. It’s good to hear what others make of what we read, which is
why bible study groups can be helpful. A word of warning, though: avoid any
bible studies I might be leading, if you want to actually stay on the subject! Better
still perhaps, read using a study guide or notes like the ones produced by
Scripture Union, Bible Reading Fellowship and others.
But don’t
read just to be dutiful, just in order to have done it. It’s often worth doing a bit of serious study:
the Bible comes alive when we understand it more clearly, the geography, the
political context, the cultural practices, all of that. When we understand
clearly what each story meant for the people who first read it, then that can help
us to understand what it might be saying for us today.
But on the
other hand we don’t always want to get too academic about things, because we
can also just use the Bible as a catalyst for prayer. Read a short passage,
perhaps one that’s so well known you don’t need to really think about it too
deeply; so just read it and pause, reflect, don’t worry about the meaning so
much as what God might be wanting to say to you personally through those
verses. I remember being told about this sort of use of the Bible by a member
of the Iona Community, and finding it quite exciting, that God might use these
age old words today to say something to me that’s fresh and new. Expect to find
new things as you read, expect that God might want to meet you here.
Please
don’t imagine that I’m any sort of expert. In fact, I suppose I’m advising you
to do things I don’t do very well myself. That’s something I have to admit. But
I know I need to pray and to read, and I know I can always grow and develop in
the way I do those things, and I know that it’s here, in my praying and in my
reading, that I’ll I get the fuel and the motivation to keep on serving, burning.
Here’s a
final thought, not about fuel for oil lamps but fuel for motors. I’ve an old
friend who’s a motor mechanic, and he always has virtually no fuel in his car;
someone else I know who drives for a living never lets his fuel tank go below
half way. I know which one of the two I’d prefer to travel with!